“And have you forgotten the exhortation which addresses you as sons? – – `My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor lose courage when you are punished by him. For the Lord disciplines him whom He loves, and chastises every son whom He receives.’
It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant; later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather healed.” Hebrews 12: 5-7, 11-13
i remember this story about two very close friends. in fact, they were too close that they already treated each other as family. one day, the other friend left and worked away from the other. before he left, he asked his friend to take care of his mother while he was away. he also entrusted his business and savings to him not wanting to bother his mother with finances. on top of that, he also sent part of his earnings monthly. his main concern was for his mother to be well taken care of.
two years after, the friend who went away came back. only to find out that the friend he left behind betrayed his trust; his money gone, the business went bankrupt and his mother neglected. when he confronted his friend, this friend who betrayed him simply said he needed the money, but never asked for forgiveness nor did he show any remorse nor shame for what he had done. he was even proud to say that he can pay him back anytime. that was the last time they saw each other.
after some time, the friend had to leave his mother again. but this time he made sure that he trusted the right people to care for her. not long after, the friend who betrayed him was caught stealing from his place of work. he was forced to resign without any benefits from his thirty years of service, or else the company would file charges against him. he left the company empty-handed. because of his lavish lifestyle which his salary alone could not sustain, he was also neck deep in debt with personal loans from other people which he could no longer pay. his childred stopped going to school. his house foreclosed by the bank. and because he was already getting older, he started to get sick.
it was time for vacation again for his friend. during one of his routine visits to his doctor, he saw the friend who betrayed him in the hospital corridor, seeking treatment for his heart ailment in the charity section; pale, thin and weak. but this then sickly friend was still hardened with pride. he said he was supposed to pay back what he owed, but he got sick. and yet, not a single sorry was uttered. his friend who had long forgotten what he had done, simply said, “you know, my friend, all our sins each have their own punishments. maybe this is yours.” and the friend who betrayed him, still proud and enrelenting answered back “you know what you said really hurts me.” and the friend who betrayed him walked away, never looked back, not realizing the hurt he had caused the other. now this friend who betrayed the other, has nothing. no money, no family, no friend.
when bad things happen to us, we associate it to God’s punishment for our past wrongdoings. because i see God as a loving and gentle God, i refused to see him in this perspective especially when i was younger. but when i grew older, i believe i also grew a bit wiser.
because by now, i know that everytime i sin, God calls my attention because he loves me and he wants me to change. in subtle ways first. but when i don’t listen, he jolts me. like lightning in the middle of summer, i would be caught by surprise. then, he gets my attention. and i learn my lesson. the hard way.
that does not mean that God is not a loving and gentle God. He is. it’s just that, i’m a stubborn sinner who needed something more than a push to make me understand.
we can be the friend who trusts or the friend who betrays. in which case, we can be forgiving like the other. or really, really mean and proud, like the one who betrays him.
the point is, when God does punishes us, let not foolish pride get in the way. acknowledge that we had done something wrong. ask for forgiveness. resolve not to repeat the same mistakes over and over again. or else, we would end up with nothing. no love. no friend. no family. no home. and sadly, no soul.