“Thus the Lord answered me: if you repent, so that I restore you, in my presence you shall stand; if you bring forth the precious without the vile, you shall be my mouthpiece. Then it shall be they who turn to you, and you shall not turn to them; and I will make you toward this people a solid wall of brass.  Though they fight against you, they shall not prevail, for I am with you, to deliver and rescue you, says the Lord.  I will free you from the hand of the wicked, and rescue you from the grasp of the violent.”  Jeremiah 15:19-21

early morning on february 21 of this year, i was waiting for my bus just in front of our gate when a light green, shiny new car stopped in front of me, and the driver who was a foreign national started saying something which i cannot quite comprehend right away.  since he was pointing the way ahead, i thought he was asking for directions and so i asked where he was heading.  he opened the door on the passenger side, tapped the seat and waved at me to come and hop in.  still giving him the benefit of the doubt that maybe, he’s just trying to get help in finding his way, i politely said no and told him my bus was coming and he just need to get moving ahead because it was a one way street.  but already, my instincts told me otherwise, and apparently they proved to be true.  he got a sr500 bill from his wallet and continued to signal to me to get in.  the street was empty and i started to get nervous unsure what was about to happen.  but i stayed calm and firmly stated that i am not for sale and that he should just leave.

both my hands were in either pockets of my coat.  the left holding my keys inside and the right holding my rosary.  it was a habit of mine to say the rosary while i stand there every morning to wait for my bus.  i usually finish my prayers before the bus arrives.  but not today because of this creepy, sick guy.   instead i was saying a different kind of prayer in my subconsious.  the guy closed the car door and left. or so i thought.  i felt relieved.  but no! it was not over yet.  the guy parked his car just a few meters ahead and hurriedly walked towards me.  my heart was pounding.  i thought if i try to open the gate and get in, i wouldn’t be able to insert the key in time because my hands were already shaking.  so i stuck to my weapon which was always on my right hand.  my rosary.  i knew deep in my heart that if i just prayed really, really hard, nothing bad would ever happen to me.

but suddenly there he is in front of me already about to grab me the money still in his hand.  i never felt that terrified in my whole life because i didn’t really know how to react to that kind of situation.  deep inside, i wanted to talk the man out of it because i was such a naive and tried to convince myself that maybe, just maybe he was not that evil.  otherwise, he could have grabbed and dragged me already the first time he opened the door.  

but then, i realized how weak and helpless i really was. at the same time, i have never believed as strongly before; that nothing bad would befall me because the Lord would protect me.  i have never clung so tightly to my faith.  not before all that happened.  i just stood there. and believed that the Lord is there watching over me.  i just believed.

before i can utter another word to this man, there was my bus.  i ran hurriedly towards its door and got in immediately.  my hands still shaking.  but thankful it was finally over.  i don’t know whatever happened to the man.  what i’m certain of is the Lord saved me.  and i was happy that i did not let go, and held on to Him. 

my friends in the bus was as shocked as i was when they learned of what happened and worse.  they had a good look at the man, but we were not able to report everything to the police.  apparently i wasn’t able to get the plate number of his car. and i just wanted to get over all of it.

looking back, i knew it could have been worse.  what if circumstances were different?  could i have done something more? and  then i received an email yesterday which narrated something similar to my experience.  and i realized i should have done something more. not for myself.  but for others who might have been potential victims of the same man too.  so i now i write about it no matter how traumatic it may have been.  and i decided to pass on to you a copy of the email i got as well, so that it could serve as a warning to all of us.  being informed may mean saving lives.

email goes:

  

 

Forwarded by Jim Paredes of Ateneo69.
Jim Paredes wrote: Katipunan , QC incident
Dear friends,
Many of you may not have heard of the incident that happened to a friend of my son last week at about
 6:30 pmright in front of  the thickly-populated area of BPI-Katipunan, near shoppersville. she parked her car right in front of BPI to make a withdrawal and to do some groceries.
As she was getting into her car after doing her chores, a man suddenly appeared beside her and tried to bully her into moving to the passenger seat. when she pressed her car horn to call attention, he pushed her in the car and pinned her down with his elbow on her neck. it was a good thing that she had the presence of mind to continue to struggle and press on her car horn to catch attention(even if she had to use her foot to do this) Her assailant even tried to make people believe that it was a domestic matter by telling the crowd not to get involved as it was a “private matter”. But with the  onlookers multiplying by the second, her assailant finally gave up and ran. that was when she stood up and shouted for help. Thank God the guy got caught and is now under police custody.
Last saturday, during the inquest, she told me that what gave her the guts to fight her assailant was the article “THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” forwarded to our e-groups! about a week prior to her attack. I am re-forwarding the article (you can find it at the bottom of this (e-mail) for everyone’s benefit. please tell your friends, family, and loved ones about this. It works. may i just add that to a certain extent, we have to get ourselves involved if we see violence being committed on anyone like calling on a security guard or a police officer even if it appears to  be a domestic matter. It seems that a lot of attackers use that tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a situation. Everyone, please be very, very careful.
THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…
FYI – Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for! them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:=20

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are  looking for an EASY target.

 3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy  who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading, forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit
 (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage: a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. (  DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

 b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And  better paranoid than dead.)

 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

Jim Paredes
 The Maverick

 

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